The day we met !!

In a strange way it seems like just yesterday. I remember it perfectly. It was mid September,The sun was just starting to go down . My boyfriend and I were just about to cross the street when A convertible pulled up beside us. I notices the boy in the car and thought.. Man is he cute, If I wasn't dating someone already... He had short dark brown hair and a letter mans jacket. He was pretty amazing.

I was sixteen at the time.I had no intention of seeing him again , but the world works in mysterious ways. It turned out that he and my boyfriend had become friends. My boyfriend was already in the military and he had just enlisted.A large group of us begin hanging out at the office,Me and the guys.There were plenty of pizza parties and long nights sitting at Lyons just talking and laughing.I will never forget that Halloween. I was dressed in a long blue princess dress, I looked like Cinderella.He had on jeans and a green sweater, He never dressed up then and he still doesn't now.We all went Down town because there was a big Halloween function.I lost track of my boyfriend somewhere along the way so He Held out his arm to me and we walked around for hours. I felt like a princess.Afterwards we went to Lyons like we always did and the boys being boys thought it would be a great idea to throw pennies down the front of my shirt. He always being a gentleman, took off his sweater and gave it to me to cover up with.I felt so protected.

In November it was time for my boyfriend to go back to Hawaii where he was stationed.I never thought I would see him again.Then one day in January I was getting money out of the ATM by the office and I looked up and who did i see looking out of the window. It was him,He was starting down at me and when I looked up we both waved..He came down and we talked.I Think I gave him my number and told him to call if he wanted to hang out.He called and we spent the next two months hanging out and watching movies.My boyfriend even asked him to be my bodyguard so that nothing bad would happen to me.

Things were great and they were platonic. Slowly something started to happen. I was getting feelings for him.It bothered me a lot,I was still dating someone else.We had so much in common. We talked all the time.We started to hold hands.I told him I had to think I was getting confused. We discussed out new feelings and I told him it didn't feel right and before we went any farther I would have to call my boyfriend and tell him it was over. It was the beginning of March.

The next day he came over for moral support.I called my boyfriend and told him I had to be honest , I had feelings for someone else and didn't feel right dating him anymore.He wanted to know if I had cheated on him and I told him no, But there was someone else and it was over.He was angry and didn't take it well.We both got letters from him,He threatened to kill us for what we had done,It didn't matter,we were so happy together.

We spent the next three weeks together. He would just sit and stare at me while we were in restaurants.We held hands, We had our first kiss. On March 23rd,1990, we made it official, we were a couple.Even then we knew that we would always be together.we talked about it, We had both been hurt and never wanted to go through that again.

I graduated high school in June and we talked about getting an apartment together.He wasn't sure anymore if he wanted to go into the Military. We moved into our own apartment in August.I was seventeen he was twenty.We both had jobs and I had started my first semester at college.

Everything was great,We were just scraping by but we had each other and that was all we needed.

In November I was home when he got off work, He came in all grungy from working construction and He had still had his tool belt on. I didn't expect anything. I met him at the door with a hug and a kiss. He pulled me into the apartment and closed the door, He looked me in the eyes as he pulled something out if his pocket, He got on one knee as he opened the box. He said will you marry me? I pulled him to his feet and said yes.It was all I ever wanted.

We discussed what we should do and when we would get married, How could we work and pay for my schooling, should he go back to school or join the military.We discussed what day we should get married.. It was so hard figuring out a day, then we chose one. The day we officially became a couple would be the day we would get married. March,23rd. We decided that in order to pay for the wedding and everything else it would be easier if we lived back with our parents.He also decided that he should join the military so he could get his schooling paid for and so we could travel the world.

On March 23rd 1991 we became husband and wife, I was so nervous walking down the aisle,I didn't know if I could go through with it. My heart was pounding and I thought I was going to faint. My father took me by the arm and we started to take the long walk down the aisle.When I got the the front of the church I felt better,We held hands and stared into each others eyes...everyone and everything melted away. Nothing and no one mattered, It was just us we kissed ,we held hands and we were introduced.It was the beginning of the rest of my life.

Day one

In a marriage there are always doubts.. But is it better to stay in the marriage and try to work on it or is it better to jump the fence and check out the grass on the other side? We live in a throw away society where everyone wants something new and more exciting.We trade in old cars for new ones and we buy new clothes before our old ones wear out. Marriage is the same way for some people. They think that it will be easy to throw it away and start again. But is it that easy, Is it even okay. Because, once you throw it away hearts get broken lives change and you can never go back.What if the grass isn't greener. What if all it took was a little communication and a little bit of effort to get the marriage back on track.